What is your definition of success and failure?
A few days ago I was on a special LIVE episode with the guys at The Digital Technopreneur, and we discussed the topic of Defining Success and Failure.
Many people see success and failure as opposites. But success can depend on context, maybe from an observer or a belief system that you have picked up along the way. Perhaps as a child, you were taught that success meant getting straight As. Or perhaps getting a promotion at work meant that you were successful? But can you truly have success without failure? And is failure really as negative as we make it seem?
Zig Ziglar talks about defining success in his book “Born to Win.” He argues that success cannot be defined in one sentence but instead comprised of many things. I must say, I agree.
For me... have had some major successes:
Now, it can be said that success and failure are subjective. Similar to beauty, they are in the eye of the beholder. Let me explain with a real-life story.
About eight years ago, someone dear to my heart at the time asked me, “How can I be such a failure in so many areas of my life and still go about like everything is OK?"
I was shocked! On so many levels!
I had never thought of myself as a failure or that I had failed at anything (except maybe Western Civilization and some math exams). My perspective was that some things just didn’t work out. From the parts of my body that did not want to function, on my timing, to my marriage, friends, businesses, and decisions made.
I was putting myself out into the world, exploring opportunities, meeting fascinating people. I believed my body would do as it was supposed to do and started looking at the situation more holistically. I had beautiful relationships until they weren’t, learned and grew in businesses and relationships and with decisions.
So, I ask you...How can that be a failure?
My then friend could only see the negative of the situations, instead of focusing on trying to look at the bright side. Look at the lessons I was learning. The changes I was making. In her eyes, I hadn't ticked the boxes I was supposed to. Her limiting beliefs were blinding her to the success I was achieving.
I'll leave you with this last quote to reflect on. Albert Einstein once said, "failure really is just success in progress."
With that in mind, I invite you to share with me your successes. Share with me your thoughts on how can failure define success and how to continue after you have reached your idea of success.